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Written by Erickson Coaching International on 21/07/2015 erickson.edu/blog/the-difference-between-couples-coaching-and-couples-therapy As with all coaching vs. therapy discussions, the biggest difference between couples coaching and couples therapy is around goals. Coaches ask questions to help one or both partners in a relationship to improve something – for example, improving communication, personal growth or helping them respond to needs better. Improvement will be judged on metrics decided on by the stakeholders. Therapy is more about providing a safe space for people to communicate so they can resolve emotional issues or so that they can come to terms with something that is hard to talk about (e.g. a previous divorce, infidelity, illness or a death, etc.) or pathologies that are preventing someone from being happy. Essentially, therapy clients are looking to heal; coaching clients are looking to get results(according to whatever goals they set); therapy clients want to understand why they feel what they feel; coaching clients want to take action to change their lives. Another way to think about this is to say that couples therapy is about dealing with unresolved issues from the past that are impacting your ability to be happy together, today. e.g. “You said you had difficulty trusting your partner because of how your parents treated you when you were younger. Tell me about that.” Couples coaching is more about assessing and adapting your habits in the present so you can get results you want in the future – whether that’s fixing something in the near term (e.g. “We want to organize our time better so we can spend more quality time together) or working towards something big over the long term (e.g. “How do I keep my ongoing conflicts with my in-laws from really hurting our marriage?”). It’s probably easiest to illustrate the difference with the kinds of questions a couples coaching professional might ask:
Follow-Up Couples Coaching Questions and Answers
In couples coaching, the end goal typically goes beyond open-ended aims like ‘feeling happy’, ‘coming to terms with the past’ or ‘getting closure’. It’s about helping your client to get measurable results, sometimes a little bit at a time, to help with the problems that he/she already knows are hurting his/her relationship – to achieve a brighter future.
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AuthorKatrina Needham is a Core Energetics therapist, an NLP practitioner and licensed Theta Healer. She has a Life Coaching and Counselling business and lives between Bali and England. Archives
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